Friday, March 7, 2014

Secret Subject Swap: Hot Ash Through the Looking Glass

Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week, 14 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts.  Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:                          Baking In A Tornado                                       The Momisodes              Stacy Sews and Schools                        Follow me home . . .                                   Outmanned              Confessions of a part-time working mom                                Dribbles and Grits                       Spatulas on Parade                                 Dinosaur Superhero Mommy                     Someone Else’s Genius             More Than Cheese and Beer                  Searching for Sanity                      Rants From My Crazy Kitchen                                  Climaxed

My subject is “If I could tell my reflection anything, it would be...”.  It was submitted by The Momisodes.  Here goes:

“I’m late. I’m late…for a very important date!”

Story of my life I’m afraid.  Unfortunately, you’re not the white rabbit in this story, my friend.  First things first, Hot Ash in the Looking Glass, there are a lot of white rabbits and you are going to chase a white rabbit.  We all do and it isn't like you have any choice in the matter; the truth is that we’re all chasing something.  For some, they’re hoping the white rabbit will lead them to the Mad Hatter who will actually turn out to be a Prince Charming, and usually just ends up being a lunatic.  Others are hoping the white rabbit will take them away from themselves, only to end up back at themselves and never having really left.  Don’t chase just any white rabbit, chase one that looks like something wonderful and that most closely resembles a dream and don’t stop chasing it.

There is no magical potion or wafer that will make you the right size.  That being said, there will always be doorknobs that will make you feel too big, smaller than small, and that you will never be able to please.  You should never ingest anything provided to you whether it be a potion or an impression simply because a doorknob and a pretty tag tell you to, lest you find yourself drowning in your own tears.

There will always be Tweedle Dees and Dums who will try to convince you that you must stay and speak with them because it is “logic”.  Live your life for you and not the entertainment of others.  And for goodness’ sake, don’t blindly follow something whether it be a religion, idea, or lifestyle so blindly that it inhibits your actions and your decisions out of fear only to end up shucked and eaten in the end.  We’ve both seen Dogma enough to know this speech by heart…but look past the organized religion focus and apply it to everything you do.  You should never follow anything so blindly that you cannot stop and look at it objectively.

Take some time to stop and enjoy the flowers and a golden afternoon, but do not forget that even a rose is technically a weed when in grows where it isn’t meant to be.  Surround yourself with people like you, and you’ll never feel unwanted and if you’re feeling unwanted, consider moving to a new garden.

Know who you are, and consider who you are in relation to the different roles you play in your life so that when you are asked who you are, you can explain yourself.  Know the qualities that make up your character, because someday your life might be turned upside down.  However, as upsetting as such an experience might be, as long as you know yourself you will always have that foundation and certainty.

Celebrate the little things in life, whether it is a cup of tea or your un-birthday.
Are saying what you mean, and meaning what you say the same thing or are they different?  Communication is hard, because of the open-mouth insert-foot disorder, but quite frankly…sometimes you say a lot for someone who doesn’t say much at all.   Don’t just speak to speak, focus on putting value, meaning, intention and purpose into the things you say.

When it comes to painting the roses red, remember that sometimes you have to make things what you want them to be in life.  But when you make a mistake, perhaps it is better to own up to them and take the punishment upon yourself rather than bringing down the entire house of cards.

Last but not least, follow the advice you give yourself because at the very least, it’s rooted in intelligence and intuition.  And sometimes, when life gets a little crazy, the best thing you can do is take an afternoon nap and wake up in a better place.



  1. That's a pretty great attitude. The mirror does you justice.

  2. Great advise. If I knew then what I know now, I would have been a happier teen/young adult and would have tried less to please others. Thanks for joining us at SSS.
    Spatulas On Parade

  3. Love, love, love this post. I'm going to read and reread it. So many things I needed to hear (read) today. Bravo. Not kidding.

    ps. How young and adorable were Matt and Ben? Ugh.

  4. Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant and beautiful! I love everything about this post!!!

  5. I love the way you took this in an Alice in Wonderland perspective. Nice addition with Dogma. That's one of my favorite parts of that movie.

    1. Mine too. It totally changed the way I view a higher power.

  6. Can I borrow the mirror that recorded all that, so I can take it with me? I need daily reminders. :)

  7. There's some great advice coming from your mirror!

    Someday your life might be turned upside down - what if all of a sudden you are not so sure if you know who you are anymore?

  8. I love what you did with this prompt! So awesome. Plus, the Dogma video. I love love LOVE that movie.

  9. I love this post! It's such a clever take on the prompt, plus a great attitude in general. So clever, not that I expect anything less from you :-) Great job!